I want a house where everyone is considerate of one another. I do not want a house of rules but of principles. How do you balance that with authority?
I want a house where the parent holds respect and therefore authority. I don't want a house of dictatorship but one with a respected authoritative presence. How do you balance that with yourself, your short-comings?
It's a balance and a hard one to strike (the idiom 'strike a balance' comes from weighing two things until the scales are equally balanced). It's a challenge and can get tedious. That's when you need a break . . . . I might need a break.